#MyWeddingPlanningJourney – Part 7 – We Got Married, y’all!!!

Soooooo call me Mrs I!!!!!!! It’s done and dusted, everyone. You cannot imagine how happy i am. The stress is finally over. I now get to live in a new house and now have a new name. Such a weird thing!!! Ok, about the wedding. Look, if i tell you that i don’t remember much, understand that i’m not lying. I sincerely do not remember much. Everything went by SO FAST!

The most memorable thing for me is the fact that i was in bed at 5pm on the day of the wedding. Look, it was straight up “Wham, bam, thank you ma’am” (Can you say this when you’re not talking about quick sex? I don’t know. Forgive me if i’ve used it wrong) Really just trying to say that i love that the ceremony and reception were straight to the point.

Yay! Finally rounding up this series. It was fun, wasn’t it? The tears i cried during this planning process ehn… *deep sigh* I’m just glad it’s over. Thanks for staying with me through this. I don’t know that i could have done it without you all.

Honeymoon tahm!!! Hello Barbados…

P.S.

Look out for the photo roundup. It’ll be the last post in this series 🙂

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#MyWeddingPlanningJourney – Part 6 – My introduction

Yay! We’re almost there! I’m so happy. Like! I can’t tell you how happy i am. It’s officially just a few more weeks to the wedding and i’m soooo happy. LOL, not because i’m looking forward to being a “princess” like 80% of all right thinking females. It’s just because all this stress will soon be over. I’m GLAD.
Well, it was my introduction this past Saturday (August 2nd). Whoop! As most of you know, this is the day where the intended groom’s family come to officially state their purpose. I’m Yoruba, but raised igbo so this “occassion is called “Iku aka ekpe” literally meaning “first knocking” like knocking on a door. It signifies the first visit to a potential bride’s by her suitor and his family to lay down their intentions. This is usually done months before the wedding and even before any planning begins but my wedding is sort of “shotgun-y”…and NO, i’m not pregnant. You would not believe how many times i’ve had to answer that question. Ugh!
Back to the matter! So my boo and his family came in around noon-ish and started whatever it is they were doing, LOL. I don’t know because i was locked up in the bedroom and like and hour later, they called me out and asked me if i knew the handsome young man because he’d just asked for my hand in marriage and i was all like “oooooh yeah, i know him, that’s my booooooooooo, he’s so fiiiiineeee”. LOL, not really. I said a very shy “Yes” and that was my acceptance. So we went on to eat and drink and be jolly. All in all, it was a good day. 3 more weeks till i change my name!!! CAN.NOT.WAIT

#MyWeddingPlanningJourney – Part 5 – What’s grinding my gears?!?!

Hello everyone,

ASIDE: If by some stroke of luck, you happen upon this post, this is me apologizing for it being TWO YEARS LATE. Just forgive me please. I need to be caned. Reading it, i have no idea why i didn’t post it back then. I have no excuses so i will make none. Again, forgive me.

I’ve been away this long because i’ve just been OVERSTRESSED. Between work, wedding planning and sorting out my blended family, i’m just glad my blood pressure is stil normal. My hair’s been shedding a bit though, so you see, It’s hard!

I’ve been able to take a few hours off work to do the compulsory traipse of Balogun market too. That is a post of it’s own. I’m now, literally, the Queen of Balogun market. Like, i know where to buy George fabric, lace, ankara, coral beads, name it! LOL

Anyway, this post is about ish that’s grinding my gears so i’ll get right on to it

  • I’m really frustrated with the people who i’ve invited to my wedding who go on to hit me with “I’m coming with my girlfriend o” Like STFU!!! I don’t know your dang girlfriend, son. And, if you insist, you’re uninvited. Eish! Why do people find it hard to understand that a Nigerian only wants to have close friends and family at their wedding?
  • I absolutely hate how everyone has an opinion but they are not contributing a dime to the wedding. I can’t count how many times i’ve rolled my eyes or said STFU to an aunt (in my head). Heck, one even said to me “How can you have a guestlist? Are you telling me not to invite anybody from the village?” Erm, yes!
  • How about the ones who ask me “How dare you say you want a small wedding?” In those exact words. LOL. I’m laughing but it really isn’t funny. Now i know i have self control. I held myself back from cussing a lot of people out. A lot of people! Everything takes me back to wishing my mother were here, i won’t have to deal with a lot of this crap, i know. Well…i’ll stop here. Maybe my next post will be happier.

#MyWeddingPlanningJourney – Part 4 – The proposal

I haven’t posted as much as I would love to, just that i’ve been extremely busy with work and wedding planning. The stress is unbelievable! So let me publish this post i’ve had sitting in my drafts for a while now. It’s the proposal. Yay!

Let me start from the beginning.

I’ve been in a relationship with an amazing amazing (so good, i had to say it twice) man, we’ve been together for just over 2 years in this great great (so great i had to say it twice, LOL) friendship. He is my homie, like, leave the cliche, but he’s the true Clyde to my Bonnie. We have been through it! Laughs, FIGHTS, drama *rolls eyes* EVERYTHING! From the day we got together, he put forward his “manifesto” (LOL) and we began our journey. If i had nothing else to say about our relationship, i’d say this one thing. It has not been boring. We’ve been through some things I could definitely do without but i know this has worked well to bring us where we are now and i’m grateful to God.

A few months ago, we decided it was time to start planning the wedding in that “We know we are getting married anywayyyyy, let’s do it in September” way and i’d often ask “Are we engaged?” and he’d annoyingly answer, “No, i promised you marriage”. Like, “Ugh, what does that even mean???” So we told our families and started quietly planning. But through all this, for some reason, i wanted a formal proposal. Not for any novelty reason, but just so we wouldn’t just “fall” into the marriage. I don’t know if this makes sense. LOL, i do admit that a big reason i wanted a proposal was to hear Mr V (Let’s call him that, shall we?)tell me beautiful things and see if either of us would shed a tear or two. LOL. So, long story short, we were planning our wedding but we weren’t formally engaged. So weird. LOL.

Fast forward a couple months, we were in the UK, we’d been to the jewelers to see what kind of ring i liked. Mr V even tried to buy it on the spot, ya know, to get out of the cringiness of a proposal. LOOOOL, I wasn’t having that. “Mr man, you must propose utunu!” A few days later, almost midnight, indoors with his Dad, Mom, older sister and brother in law, discussing wedding plans, somehow the gist drifted to rings and his sis asked “Mr V, have you guys chosen rings?” and somehow amidst plenty laughter, my adorable homie/boyfriend/fiance poured out his heart, went on his knees and brought out of his pocket, this little black box that had in it the most beautiful half carat diamond, set in white gold. The exact ring i wanted. LOL, i didn’t cry, too cheesy, but i laughed hard. Because i was so ecstatic. And today, i pray that, in Jesus’ name, that laughter will never leave our lives. Amen.

LOL, so that’s that. The proposal.

P.S. There’s a video of this somewhere and i’ll put it up one of these days…maybe

#MyWeddingPlanningJourney – Part 3 – All the things i have to do

If you read my last post, you’ll know i was losing my mind. Fast forward a week, finally got a call from my venue that the date i wanted was now available. YAY!!! The other group didn’t pay so it was a GO! This news made me so so happy. That’s one less thing to worry about.

So here are all the things i have left to do…

  • Alterations for my wedding dress + buying a veil and bridal belt
    At this point, let me mention that i don’t like the shoes i bought anymore. I bought a pair of silver sandals, low heeled, enough to be able to stand and dance in all day but i just don’t like them anymore. Now i need to find new shoes.
  • Date for the introduction ceremony
    For this event, which is the official introduction of both families, we plan to have only immediate family around so i’m thinking 20 people max.
  • My family’s list for the introduction ceremony
    Here, the bride’s family prepares a list of things for the groom’s family to bring as bride price. The list would usually consist of things like tubers of yam, clothes, jewellry, et cetera. When the list is ready, i promise to post it here. It is at the introduction ceremony that this list is presented to the groom’s family.
  • Catering for the introduction ceremony
  • Venue for the traditional wedding
  • Catering for the traditional wedding
  • Decor for the traditional wedding venue
  • Clothes for the traditional wedding
    I’m having some trouble here. Let me explain. My mother was Delta Igbo, she raised me and my father, whom i recently met and got acquainted with is Yoruba. He’ll be at my wedding but not in the usual “fatherly” capacity. So the dilemma is whether to dress as a Delta Igbo bride (George wrapper, blouse made from lace material and/or coral beads with a headtie) or a Yoruba bride (Iro and buba, made of aso oke and/or lace). I’ll decide soon but i’m leaning towards the Delta Igbo side.
  • Wedding day transportation
  • Make up artist
    I’ve narrowed my options here to 2 MUAs, should make a decision in the next few days.
  • Photography
    I’ve also narrowed options here to 2 photogs and will make a decision in the next few days

All these decisions that need to be made will be made bearing in mind that the cermonies will be small and intimate and we will cut costs as much as possible. Yes, we have our work cut out for us. The next few months will be a rollercoaster, i know. I’m just going to try my best to enjoy it as much as i can. The light at the end of the tunnel is that at the end of this rigorous journey, i’ll be married to my sweetheart forever and we’re going to spend a beautiful happy life together. We’re going to have healthy, beautiful children who we’ll raise with oh so much love, watch them grow and watch them get married and raise their own children. Pure heaven. So yes. I can deal with a little wedding planning, the rewards are plenty.

#MyWeddingPlanningJourney – Part 2 – Venue woes

Now that I’m back in Lagos, wedding planning is in full effect. I don’t sound too enthused abi? Lemme say this again. Today is the 4th of June 2013 and our wedding is in about 80 days. We have to put together an introduction ceremony, traditional wedding, ceremony at our church and a reception in less than 3 months. Yes, not a lot of time AT ALL. I’m a bit overwhelmed. I cannot afford to have anything go wrong.

Mr V and i had talked about venues and other details and for the reception, we decided to go with an all inclusive one. The venue takes care of food, decor, cake, drinks and even the honeymoon suite for our wedding night. Complete win! Especially seeing as we both work full time so, quite frankly, neither of us has the time to chase numerous vendors. The fact that this venue allows us the luxury of eliminating at least 4 vendors, we knew we had to have it. No time or space for unnecessary headaches. We’d even gone there a while ago to see the hall, menu and all, it was right.

At this point, let me say, we are also trying to pull off the impossible. We are trying to have a small wedding in Lagos, Nigeria. Ha! If you’re Nigerian, or even know Nigerians, you know that this is almost impossible and definitely NOT going to be easy. First step to making sure of this was choosing a hall that cannot have more than 270 people. Our wedding will be strictly by invitation, only our nearest and dearest. We gave our families 50 guests each while we have 50 guests each also. Full stop. Case closed. Easy peasy abi? Not in the slightest. Wait and see.

I called our potential reception venue to discuss putting down a deposit for the date we wanted. Guess what? Our date was NOT AVAILABLE. I almost ran mad. Like, what was i really thinking?!?!?! Did i really expect that my dream venue would just be sitting down waiting for me on ice till i was ready to book it? What a joker i was! I almost cried. I literally almost had a meltdown on the phone, dude on the other end started consoling me. Then he let it slip that the group that booked the date hadn’t paid and they had till Monday of the next week to pay or the date would be open again. I stopped hyperventilating at this point because there was a chance, albeit tiny, that we’d get our venue. Mind you, it was Wednesday so i had about 6 days to wait before i would know. So the waiting began. I put down the deposit for the week after, as a tentative date, a plan B.

Started making concrete lists for wedding planning and it was at this point i realized that my main headache would come from planning the introduction and traditional wedding. Under normal circumstances, this wouldn’t even be my business. Ideally, those parts of the wedding process are organized by the bride’s parents. Seeing as my mother, the only parent i was raised by, passed away years ago, i have had to organize this part of the wedding with cousins, aunties and uncles, some of whom haven’t been the most helpful. To be completely fair,some have been great but others, not so much. And imagine how stressful it is asking 4 or 5 people who have “better” things to do for something as against 1 person who would have made this their main project. Does anyone want to guess how much i miss my mommy right now?

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I feel like this a lot of the time

Anyway, I’m just going to chill and not over-think anything. Everything will go well, i know it.
Till i blog again…see ya

THE BAG TAG!!!

I was reading one blog i like to check in on from time to time, Stella’s addiction, a beauty blog, and i saw a rather interesting tag post that, apparently, had been going around blogsville for a while and as Chairman and Commander-in-Chief of “Last Carriers Association”, i have decided to do a *drumroll* “What’s in my bag tag?” *applause*

These are the rules:

1. Take a picture of your bag.
2. Take a picture of its contents.
3. Explain!
4. Tag as many bloggers as you want, that you’d like to see the contents of their bags.

Don’t y’all wonder what that other lady has in her bag sometimes? I know i do…

Soooo here goes:

THE BAG!!!

When i got this bag, it was supposed to be the “informal” bag but laziness no dey gree me change bag sometimes so it has become the work bag, the church bag and the play bag. LOL! It’s by Nine West and i think it’s really pretty. I’d seen it online in brown which i already liked and was thinking of getting so when i saw this colour in the Nine West store at the mall on my last trip, it was love… and i’ve recently gotten into charms. I have 2 on this bag.

THE CONTENTS:

1. My makeup purse: I don’t know if i really need to explain this as i’m sure EVERY woman logs one of these around. You gotta keep the face looking right, heeeyyyy!!!

2. Half eaten pack of Maryland cookies (Double choc): X_X Everybody that knows me knows how much i LOVE food. I always have something to munch on in my bag EVERY TIME!

3. My iPod: I carry my iPod everywhere i go. In Lagos, it’s necessary as you will, inevitably, find yourself in a situation where you have to drown sounds out. I heart my iPod.

4. My work ID: I have this on me all the time, even on weekends

5. My cheque book: Tattered and torn, my darling cheque book has been with me through good times and bad and it stays in the bag permanently o. LOL

6. My nail file: In case of that annoying chipped nail that can happen anywhere.

7. Face wipes: This is probably more compulsory than all the rest because in this Lagos weather, my face needs its freshness abeg.

8. Hand cream: To get rid of any unwanted ashiness in the course of my day. This is Bath and Body Works Anti bacterial moisturizing hand lotion in Dancing Waters. The smell is divine.

 9. Hand sanitizer: I’m not a germophobe or anything of the sort but let’s just stay healthy sha

10. Perfume: I always try to have a 30ml bottle of perfume in my bag at all times. Something will always come up where you’ll need to smell fresher than you already do and I find it rather inconvenient logging my large perfume bottles around. This is DKNY Be Delicious.

11. My BlackBerry charger: NEPA’s incompetence and the poor battery life on the Blackberry make sure this charger stays permanently in the bag *sigh*

12. My house keys: No explanation needed 😀

13. My umbrella: I can’t let Lagos rains blindside me o.

14. Hair pins/ruffles etc: Sometimes leaving my hair down gets really inconvenient so i always make sure i have at least 2 hair pins and one hair ruffle in my bag.

15. Sunglasses: I carry these around to protect my eyes from the sunlight…or just to look cool-er 😀

16. Pen and notebook: I find that i always feel the need to write stuff down. It’s a habit.

17. My wallet: This contains cash, bank cards, business cards, sim cards, pictures etc etc etc

There you have it…that’s my bag. I wanna see yours 😀